By: Christopher Adams, AMFT
In the micro culture of a marriage, we make lots of decisions. There is an entire system of rules and expectations that are consciously and unconsciously decided by our partner and us. Unfortunately, couples fight and often times it is about this system that isn’t making sense.
In their book, Love that Lasts, Gary and Joy Lundberg talk about how to survive the arguments of marriage. One of the best things that a couple can do is to make a conscious decision to laugh.
As a Marriage and Family Therapist I have learned the value of helping my clients to see the humor in the arguments that they are having and teaching them to do the same. This does not mean that I do not take seriously the hurts and betrayals that occur in the marriage relationship. There are many tears and devastations that come in the course of couples counseling, however, as Marie Osmond has said, “If you are going to look back at something and laugh, why not do it now.”
Laughter in marriage can have a powerful effect. It creates chemical releases that allow the human body to bond and to repair hurts both past and present. If you and your spouse have forgotten how to laugh together, come and see us at Connections Counseling Center and let us help you to bring the joy back into your relationship.
You both deserve to laugh, let’s see if you can do it together.