Understanding the nature of addiction, the personal issues that tend to support addiction, and how recovery is accomplished is very important. We encourage you to arm yourself with knowledge. Below are resources that many have found valuable.
Books & Articles
Sexual addiction
- What’s the Big Deal about Pornography? A Guide for the Internet Generation
(2008), Jill C. Manning. Shadow Mountain Press, Salt Lake City, UT.
- Confronting Pornography: A Guide to Prevention and Recovery for Individuals, Loved Ones, and Leaders
(2005), Mark Chamberlain, Dan Gray, & Rory Reid (Editors). Deseret Book, Salt Lake City, UT.
- Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction
(2004). Mark Laaser. Zondervan Publishing, Grand Rapids, Michigan.
- In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior
(2001), Patrick Carnes, David L. Delmonico & Elizabeth Griffin. Hazelden, Center City, MN.
- Purity and Passion: Spiritual Truths about Intimacy That Will Strengthen Your Marriage
Wendy L. Watson. Deseret Book
- Wild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man’s Soul
John Eldredge.
- A Gentle Path Through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery
(1993), Patrick Carnes.
- Don’t Call it Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction
(1991), Patrick Carnes.
- Forgiving Ourselves: Getting Back Up When We Let Ourselves Down
(2008). Wendy Ulrich, PhD. Deseret Book, Salt Lake City, UT
- Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for A Lifetime Of Love
(2008). Susan Johnson
Partners of those with sexual addiction
- Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts
(2008), Stefanie Carnes, Editor. Gentle Path Press.
- After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner has been Unfaithful
(1994), Janis Abrams Spring. Harper Collins Publishers
- NOT “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity
(2004), Shirley Glass and Jean Coppock Staeheli.
- Affairs: A Guide to Working Through the Repercussions of Infidelity
(1999), Emily M. Brown
- Discussing Pornography Problems with a Spouse: Confronting and Disclosing Secret Behaviors
(2002 & 2005), Rory C. Reid & Dan Gray. Mental Health Publications, Salt Lake City, UT
- How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To
(2004), Janis Abrams Spring. Harper Collins Publishing, New York, NY
- Infidelity on the Internet: Virtual Relationships and Real Betrayal
(2001), Marlene M. Maheu & Rona B. Subotnik. Sourcebooks Inc., Naperville, Illinois
- Living with Your Husband’s Secret Wars
(1999), Marsha Means. Fleming H. Revell, Grand Rapids, MI.
- Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
Melody Beattie, Hazelden
- The Dance of Intimacy
Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY
- The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY
- The Dance of Deception: A Guide to Authenticity and Truth-Telling in Women’s Relationships
Harriet G. Lerner. Harper & Row, New York, NY
Parents of those with sexual addiction
- Pornified: How Pornography is Transforming Our Lives, Our Relationships, and Our Families
Pamela Paul.
- Protecting Your Child in an X-Rated World: What You Need to Know to Make a Difference
Frank York & Jan LaRue
- Home Invasion: Protecting Your Family in a Culture that’s Gone Stark Raving Mad
Rebecca Hagelin.
- How and When to Tell Your Kids About Sex: A Lifelong Approach to Shaping Your Child’s Sexual Character
Brenna & Stan Jones
- Kids Ask About Sex: Honest Answers for Every Age
Edited by Melissa R. Cox & the Medical Institute for Sexual Health
- Ten Talks Parents Must Have with Their Children about Sex and Character
Pepper Schwartz & Dominic Cappello.
- Between Parent and Child: The Best-Selling Classic that Revolutionized Parent-Child Communication
(2003). Haim Ginott, Alice Ginott, and H. Wallace Goddard. Three-Rivers Press.
Clergy of those with sexual addiction
- What’s the Big Deal about Pornography? A Guide for the Internet Generation
(2008), Jill C. Manning. Shadow Mountain Press, Salt Lake City, UT.
- Confronting Pornography: A Guide to Prevention and Recovery for Individuals, Loved Ones, and Leaders
(2005), Mark Chamberlain, Dan Gray, & Rory Reid (Editors). Deseret Book, Salt Lake City, UT.
- Infidelity on the Internet: Virtual Relationships and Real Betrayal
(2001), Marlene M. Maheu & Rona B. Subotnik.
- Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction
(2004). Mark Laaser. Zondervan Publishing, Grand Rapids, Michigan.
- In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior
(2001), Patrick Carnes, David L. Delmonico & Elizabeth Griffin. Hazelden, Center City, MN.
- Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction
Addiction (2001), Patrick Carnes. Hazelden, Center City, MN.
Couples
- Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged By Virtual Infidelity
Geoff Steurer and Mark Chamberlain
- Hold Me Tight, Seven Conversations for A Lifetime Of Love
(2008). Susan Johnson
- Sex, Lies, and Forgiveness: Couples speak out on healing from sexual addiction
(2004). Jennifer Schneider. Recovery Resources Press.
- Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World that Pulls Us Apart
William J. Doherty, Guilford Press.
- The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
John M. Gottman. Three Rivers Press.
- Purity and Passion: Spiritual Truths about Intimacy That Will Strengthen Your Marriage
Wendy L. Watson, Deseret Book.
- Rock-Solid Relationships: Strengthening Personal Relationships With Wisdom from the Scriptures
Wendy L. Watson, Deseret Book
- Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance & Reality
(1999), Patrick Carnes, Debra Laaser & Mark Laaser
- Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual & Relationship Recovery
(2005), Patrick Carnes.
- Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again
Michele Weiner-Davis.
- The Peacegiver: How Christ Offers to Heal our Hearts and Homes
James L. Ferrell, Deseret Book.
- Strengthening Recovery Through Strengthening Marriage: Healing from Pornography Addiction
6-part audio series presented by Dr. Kevin Skinner and Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT. Available at www.marriage-recovery.com
Web Resources
www.providentliving.com (LDS 12 step program)
