A note to a sponsee:
It is interesting how you spoke of your recovery time on the angry outburst – you stayed in the light and saw the weakness and more quickly got centered.
This is a similar process to what you have experienced with your addiction and reflects my history as well. Using the 12-step tools of recovery, relapses for both anger and your drug are contained and overcome quickly and soon don’t occur at all. It is a wonderful process! I find that if I work to stay aware and surrender resentments early, from whatever source, I can deal comfortably and directly and reasonably with conflict as it comes up. This, as opposed to its spilling over in a rush of overinflated emotion at some unpredictable moment.
Resentment and your addiction are very similar in this regard! Their history needs to be confessed and neutralized in step 1, 4, 5, 8 and 9 and then they need to be neutralized quickly along the way through surrender and admitting when we are wrong!